Respond to this post and share examples of self-regulation skills you have observed in your family or other families who are close to you. ( 50 words or more)
a. What would you recommend to a parent who asks you what he or she can do to promote his or her preschool child’s self-regulation skills?
Self-regulation is important, because “it helps children solve problems and get along with others” (Bojczyk, 2012). If a parent comes to me and asks how he or she can do to promote his or her preschool child’s self-regulation skills, I would have to say modeling appropriate behavior. Children are like sponges, and pick up on everything we say and do, and the children would repeat it. If the child were to see the parent throw things when upset, then the child would tend to repeat what they see their parents do, and then throw an object when they get upset. Appropriate role modeling would be one of the best things a parent can do to help their child.
b. Now turning to the mesosystem, identify examples of influences on the child’s effortful control you can share with the parent.
Delay of Gratification is one effortful control “that is demonstrated when the individual can give up smaller. Immediate rewards in exchange for a more valuable reward after a period of waiting” (Bojczyk, 2012). With the Delay of Gratification component, parents can explain to the child if you wait for another moment then you can get that piece of candy you want, or something that the child would not mind waiting for.
c. Provide examples of influences on children’s effortful control that you have observed in your own family and other families who are close to you.
In the people close to me I have noticed that on children’s effortful control, is when my friend’s son wanted a toy at the store. My friend told him if you wait until we get home I have something else for you. He asked about the toy again from the store. My friend explained to her son if you wait until we get home, you would like what was at home instead of this toy. Her son waited, until they got home, and when he went to his room on his bed there was a better toy that he was asking for, and it was, because he was doing good in school and around the house. With this her son learned patience, self-control, and handled his frustration of wanting the toy from the store.